“OMG You’re in a wheelchair!!”

Hello all,

My friend shared the following question and response from a blog she found and I believe it’s something everyone should see. Clearly people don’t understand what’s appropriate and what’s inappropriate. Or even have a basic understanding of manners. I know so many people in wheelchairs, crutches, or with disabilities that have accomplished so much more by 30 years old that most people will achieve in their lifetime. Just remember, just because someone’s different doesn’t mean they are any less worthy or able to live life to the fullest. 

 

“Questions : “Ur in a wheel chair!!! OMG that must suck. If u don’t mind me asking what happened. P.s I love ur blog

Response: “Do you have any idea how offensive it is to say that? You basically implied my life is not as good/valuable/fulfilling as yours is because I happen to have a disability and use a wheelchair. My wheelchair doesn’t make my life suck, it improves my life and makes daily independent living doable. As for what ‘happened’ nothing ‘happened’ there isn’t some horrible accident or sob story. I was simply born with a condition called cerebral palsy.(And for those who have been in accidents or tramatic event it’s not always a blast to go through reiterating the gory details)””

 

Danielle

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Super Lupie?

Looking at my original schedule this semester, I had a thought. Why is that I feel the need to try and be superwoman all the time? One thing I realized was that I feel the need to do more than most “normal” people in an attempt to show that being sick can’t stop me from doing anything. Maybe not everyone does this but I certainly know some people that do.

I’ve always had a strong motivation and desire to succeed and really, that’s all I thought this was. But then I really thought about it – look at college. The normal enrollment was 16 credits I believe and the maximum you could take without permission was 18. So I took 17 or 18 every semester until my last one when I got seriously sick. I could have graduated in 3 years but I stayed an extra year. Who does that?!? Yea it was fun and I took some really fun and interesting courses that last year but it was really hard work to get to that point. “Normal” people graduate in 4 years, I managed to finish everything in 3. Many of those facing challenges take longer than 4 years. Law school was almost the same way, I keep taking these classes that I know are going to be extremely difficult and taxing but I do it anyway. It’s my last year and I changed my schedule to make it harder without even realizing it. Go me!

I finally fixed everything and made my life a whole lot easier but it definitely made me stop and think whether I do these things because of my own ambition or because I’m sick. Conclusion: both. I will always tell myself I can do better, I can push farther but I will also always want to tell everyone “Hey look what I can do!” in an effort to show that my disability doesn’t run my life. I’ve decided I need to back off on that second one now – I’ve more than proved myself at this point in my life and now it’s time to focus on what’s best for me.

Everyone have a wonderful, safe, and warm week!

Published in: on January 17, 2012 at 10:16 am  Comments (2)  
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